My boyfriend and I have an awesome relationship. We play together we laugh together and we have a great time together. We never fight, Im not exaggerating, and we never get tired of spending time with one another. And well there's this...
There's just one thing that we are polar opposites on and Im not sure how to handle it. He grew up in a military family where emotions weren't expressed and hugs weren't given. I, on the other hand, grew up in a very loving and emotional family. We talked about our feelings, we hugged it out, and we spent pretty much 24/7 together doing family shiz.
Mike doesnt say I love you, he buys me stuff. I know some of you are like seriously are you complaining. Well yeah I am. I love that he randomly thinks of me throughout the day because hes thinking of me or calls me for no apparent reason. Its awesome but sometimes I'd like to hear him say it. Then Im like we've been together for 15 months and Ive never even heard him say it to his kid. He shows his love and affection in very different ways. However, sometimes it makes me feel bad. Like Im the type of girl that needs hugs, kisses, and I love you's. He says Im insecure about our relationship that I should know that he loves me. Which I do but I want to feel wanted and missed or whatever stage 5 clinger bullshit I sound like right now. Sometimes I just want that.
Not really but I do want him to hug me when I get home from work or to simply say Hey Brittney I love the shit out of you! I tried to tell him about it but hes like everything is perfect why are you tripping. Wanna know why Im tripping, stupid disney movies with their unrealistic love stories Im sure, but whatever cant a bitch just get a GD hug?!
This is not a deal breaker for me. In every other way Mike is perfect and we're perfect for each other. When youre in a relationship you really have to make sacrifices and compromises. I mean is it really so bad that hes not affectionate. No. I can deal with it. I can understand he was brought up differently than me and he shows his affection in other ways. Such as buying me tons of jewelry last week, fixing my car, brushing my hair and bringing me soup after I just had surgery and couldnt lift my arms, etc. He shows me in so many ways that he loves and cares for me I dont know why I get caught up on him not being affectionate. I was upset and thought I was justified when I first started writing this and now I feel kind of ridiculous. Mike has changed my life, he has made me smile, and hes showed me how I am supposed to be treated. I dont think he'll ever be the mushy gushy type and thats okay with me. He loves me even if he shows his love differently than I do.