If you're new here you can read this post and this post to really understand the craziness of everything thats happened over the last year. However who has time to read 2 posts then read another one to catch up #aintnobodygottimeforthat so long story short, my ex and I have been anything but civil, in and out of court, and his girlfriend and I haven't had the best encounters either.
However, over the past 2 months things have calmed down and we're all being civil towards one another and we communicate through facebook messages because it just makes it easier on all of us. Its easier to sit and think about what youre going to say whereas in person or on the phone it could get heated quickly and turn into an argument.
Ive been letting my boys go over there pretty frequently and of course when they are over there I communicate with the girlfriend through facebook to check on my boys. We are friendly and civil. All is good. Im happy with that, where as it wasnt even close a few months back.
This weekend I received a notification and it was her wanting to add me as a friend on facebook. That I had to think about. It is one thing to be nice and civil and friendly for the kids. However, it is quite another to basically invite someone in to your personal life on a daily basis. I dont want any more drama but I feel like no matter what there will be a little. "ugh look what shes doing when she doesnt have the kids, look what she said, etc" or "why wont she add me on facebook, what is she hiding, etc"See what I'm saying?!
I feel its best to continue the path that we're on. Keeping it simple and civil but that is it. We were friends before on facebook and it didn't end well. Isn't Facebook high school all over again?! I don't feel the need to know what they're doing in their household or when they dont have my children, and vice versa we live separate lives now and there is certainly no need to add any misunderstandings or drama to the mix.
What do you think would you confirm or deny?